… making human-well-beings Icebergs!
Icebergs – Deeply held beliefs that often lead to out of kilter emotional reactions eg believing that asking for help is a weakness … how can we reframe that? Following icebergs you need to deal with how to minimize catastrophic thinking… learning how to calibrate the catastrophic realistically is crucial… eg soldier unable to contact his wife […]
We need to be part of a flourishing community
There is a balance between the solitary individual and the flourishing community. It has been fashionable to describe humans as SELFISH. However, A cooperative group will always outperform selfish one. A few sad or lonely or angry people can spoil the morale of the whole group. Positive morale on the other hand is even more powerful […]
Creating Action
This is the first in a series of posts that will debunk life coaching myths and explain the principles of the life coaching process in simple terms. You need a process of discovery before implementing an action plan First step is to focus on values and to your strengths. Most people underestimate their strengths. Therefore, we need […]
Self Control and Grit
Where character enters the equation is effort – the amount of time spent on a task.. deliberate practice. 20 of the world’s top soloist pianist have spent 10,000 hours of solo practice in their life time to achieve their excellence!.(5000 next level and 2000 for serious amateur) What determines the time devoted? Answer: Character and […]
Resilience
In positive psychology the world can be bettered by identifying and then shaping character, both bad and good. Reward and punishment shape character and good events are just as important as awful events. Be drawn to the future by expectations, planning and conscience choice… rather than being driven by your past habits and circumstances.
Positive relationships
Very little that is positive is solitary – laughing, a sense of profound meaning, pride in accomplishment usually take place around other people. Other people are the best antidote to the downs of life and single most reliable up and doing a kind act produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well being of […]
PERMA – 5 elements of Wellbeing
Again, continuing Seligman’s Flourish resource, the 5 elements of wellbeing are as follows: 1. Positive emotion: Happiness and life satisfaction are now merely one of the factors. 2. Engagement – again only subjective – though subjective state is only retrospective ie “ that was wonderful” 3. Relationships 4. Meaning: Subjective….. and objective 5. Accomplishment – […]
Well Being Theory
Well-being is a construct; happiness is a thing. It has several measurable elements, each a real thing, each contributing to well being, but none defining well-being. eg Weather is a construct – several elements contribute, temp, rain etc eg Freedom is a construct – is press censored? Elections? Each element is measurable but only by […]
Problems with authentic happiness
Neither engagement nor meaning refers to how we feel Life satisfaction holds too privileged a position in the measure of happiness. Measured in a scale of 1 – 10 how satisfied are you? The problem with such a measure of life satisfaction is that it depends on how good we feel at the very moment we are […]
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