… making human-well-beings Building Strong Relationships
Practical tools to build relationships and to challenge beliefs that interfere with positive communication. Research shows when an individual responds actively and constructively to someone sharing a positive experience, love and friendship increase. 4 styles of responding: 1. Active constructive (authentic and enthusiastic) 2. Passive constructive (understated support) 3. Passive destructive (ignoring the event) 4. […]
Underlying Automatic Commitment
Beliefs and judgements we believe of ourselves and those around us. We’re always committed to something – no grey area. A UAC is an unconscious commitment. It provides an insight into yourself. We repeat our actions because its predictable, comfortable and an easy option. Our life is a story. We puts bits in we like and […]
Post-Traumatic Growth
‘What does not kill me makes me stronger’ Research has shown that individuals who’d experienced an awful event had more intense strengths and therefore higher wellbeing. And the more events experienced, the more stronger people became. What events that have made you stronger? Post-Traumatic Growth Course Personal transformation is characterised by renewed appreciation of being […]
Power Tool 1 Action vs Delay
Process Idea—— Plan —— Action ——- Results Just knowing this process doesn’t necessarily bring you to action. Why? Fear of failure, mistakes and disappointments.Know that such consequences are simply part of the process. Embrace it and move on. Become good at facing failure – learn from it!Overwhelmed by big goal and can’t see the small […]
Turning trauma into growth
Focusing on Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is like the tail wagging the dog. Consider the example of a flood victim: First, a victim may relive the disaster in dreams time and again. Second, they may be left numb psychologically… “didn’t even go to his dad’s cemetery” and “neglecting domestic duties – they don’t mean anything […]
Creating Action
Tools: Reflect on your own experience: How have you felt when others have encouraged you to take action when you doubted your strength or ability in a specific area? What are your top 10 strengths? How do these support you in your development as a ……? Think of one goal that you will have for […]
Time to be creative?
How does slowness contribute to achievement? Tool of the mind: One technique is structured play… If you ask a child to stand still – maximum is one minute. If you have a make believe that the child is guarding the factory maximum increases to 4 minutes. Achievement: defined not simply by any motion but motion […]
Introspection and Judgement
Self insight / introspection is very important before we can take action. Do not rush into action for action’s sake. What is the interference / obstacle between where you are now and where you want to be? Judgement by others is the biggest cause of procrastination and therefore unravelling this judgement will initially be more important than defining goals. […]
Speed vs Slowness
Speed and IQ have a strong relationship Any complex task has fast components and slower voluntary components that take more effort. What distinguishes people is how much they have on ‘automatic’. When the bulk of what an expert does is on automatic, people say he/she has ‘great intuition’. Tremendous effort can compensate for modest skill, […]
Creating Action
Positive affirmations In the world you are inundated with negative comments. Tool: Write down affirmations and place this list somewhere visual. Focus on solutions – Once you know what works for you, do more of it! When you discover something that doesn’t work do something different. Build on past success – It can provide a shift in perspective. Tool: […]
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