How to Surround Yourself with the Right People

If you want to learn to fly, you could take aeronautical advice from a child with a paper plane, “Go to a really high place on a windy day…” Catastrophes can begin by looking for the right answers from the wrong people. The same principle applies to those affecting our ability to achieve goals. The wrong friends slow personal development. The wrong employer stalls careers. The wrong employee lessens profits, and so on. We often tragically accept circumstances determining those with access to our lives. Improving the people around us begins with improving ourselves.

Most people you enjoy being around have infectious joy and generosity. Those same qualities are in you, they’re just buried under the desire to eliminate obligations (people) to secure more “me” time.  Seclusion does not renew energy, but contribution can. Encounter people. Make eye contact, smile, even say, “Hi.” Show genuine warmth by truly listening. Break the seclusion cycle that started as a path of least resistance and became a defense mechanism. You’re not handing over your phone number and inviting everyone to stop by for a “Fun of Being Friends Forum.” You are enriching your life with positive influences. Even better, you just became one. To begin attracting the right people, simply look up and listen.

Being overly protective of our time is selfish and unfulfilling. Our circle of influence grows when we expand it beyond our comfort zone. Challenge yourself to find a cause and contribute your time. Seek out those who lead by benevolent example. These people aren’t consumed with the need to be in charge. They encourage others to contribute their thoughts and skills, then gently steer their efforts. They volunteer for menial tasks while allowing others to be the “stars.” They accomplish exactly what they intended; to help others. They handle tasks and conflicts with an easygoing determination that inspires others and elevates the quality of their environment.

Joy isn’t found; it’s already yours! This is how certain people don’t just endure, they excel. Bring the joy, and people are drawn to you. Have a sense of humor about yourself while uplifting others. A positive attitude drives away downers and attracts “bright siders.” Use social situations to project yourself as relaxed and confident. Be genuinely interested in others. Your reward is the company of the right people who return what you give; the shine of success!