… making human-well-beings Introspection and Judgement
Self insight / introspection is very important before we can take action. Do not rush into action for action’s sake. What is the interference / obstacle between where you are now and where you want to be? Judgement by others is the biggest cause of procrastination and therefore unravelling this judgement will initially be more important than defining goals. […]
Speed vs Slowness
Speed and IQ have a strong relationship Any complex task has fast components and slower voluntary components that take more effort. What distinguishes people is how much they have on ‘automatic’. When the bulk of what an expert does is on automatic, people say he/she has ‘great intuition’. Tremendous effort can compensate for modest skill, […]
Creating Action
Positive affirmations In the world you are inundated with negative comments. Tool: Write down affirmations and place this list somewhere visual. Focus on solutions – Once you know what works for you, do more of it! When you discover something that doesn’t work do something different. Build on past success – It can provide a shift in perspective. Tool: […]
Icebergs!
Icebergs – Deeply held beliefs that often lead to out of kilter emotional reactions eg believing that asking for help is a weakness … how can we reframe that? Following icebergs you need to deal with how to minimize catastrophic thinking… learning how to calibrate the catastrophic realistically is crucial… eg soldier unable to contact his wife […]
We need to be part of a flourishing community
There is a balance between the solitary individual and the flourishing community. It has been fashionable to describe humans as SELFISH. However, A cooperative group will always outperform selfish one. A few sad or lonely or angry people can spoil the morale of the whole group. Positive morale on the other hand is even more powerful […]
Creating Action
This is the first in a series of posts that will debunk life coaching myths and explain the principles of the life coaching process in simple terms. You need a process of discovery before implementing an action plan First step is to focus on values and to your strengths. Most people underestimate their strengths. Therefore, we need […]
Self Control and Grit
Where character enters the equation is effort – the amount of time spent on a task.. deliberate practice. 20 of the world’s top soloist pianist have spent 10,000 hours of solo practice in their life time to achieve their excellence!.(5000 next level and 2000 for serious amateur) What determines the time devoted? Answer: Character and […]
Resilience
In positive psychology the world can be bettered by identifying and then shaping character, both bad and good. Reward and punishment shape character and good events are just as important as awful events. Be drawn to the future by expectations, planning and conscience choice… rather than being driven by your past habits and circumstances.
Positive relationships
Very little that is positive is solitary – laughing, a sense of profound meaning, pride in accomplishment usually take place around other people. Other people are the best antidote to the downs of life and single most reliable up and doing a kind act produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well being of […]
PERMA – 5 elements of Wellbeing
Again, continuing Seligman’s Flourish resource, the 5 elements of wellbeing are as follows: 1. Positive emotion: Happiness and life satisfaction are now merely one of the factors. 2. Engagement – again only subjective – though subjective state is only retrospective ie “ that was wonderful” 3. Relationships 4. Meaning: Subjective….. and objective 5. Accomplishment – […]
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