Visualize your future and be ‘enthused’ before the decision to take action. Enthusing is an opportunity to celebrate your decisions to take small steps. Once a step has been taken celebration of this step can encourage the next step. Enthusing needs to be genuine / authentic otherwise there’s dishonesty

How would your life be different today, if people around you enthused you instead of got angry at you for everything they wanted?

Negative techniques:

1. imply you are bad or wrong – sometimes implicated in the tone of voice
2. coercion / threatening
3. guilt trip – sacrifices a person’s self worth; damages self esteem

These are short term techniques and achieve superficial change. All disempower.

Negative techniques are not too successful – you would, at best, harbour resentment

Can you think of an example of when someone has tried one of the negative techniques to get you to change? How successful were they?